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I don't know what am i thinking

3/3/2015

What do you call that when you kept thinking about a particular person all the time? Yes... that's right. Is that called love? I can't tell for now. I haven't had that sensation for ages. You know you have had that cupid arrow struck on you when you wish it was her when your phone beeps on the messenger. You know you are doomed when you realize all you ever knew is how beautiful is her smile while you look at her picture (the photo we took together)...
Shitttttttttttttttttttt...... I am so dooomed!!!!

My first taste of Love? after a long time...

25/2/2015 Wednesday

It has been awhile since I did any blogging. Nowadays I think I will only blog when I've got the "feel" for it or perhaps let's call it personal journal instead. Oh yea, Happy Chinese New Year by the way people. The date above marks quite an important day for me. Well, some might think this is childish but this is something for me to remember every year. It is the day that I get to hold her hand! YES, THAT'S RIGHT! The day I gotten the chance to hold her hand for the first time. *champagne popping sound* The girl that I liked for a while ago. Oh my god.... You know what, she is the one to initiate it too! OMG OMG. Such bold move ( I was like jumping in happiness when I heard that ). We actually started off at Vivahome for a movie, I tagged along for movie with her friend. We watched the movie by the name KINGSMAN (awesome movie). After the movie we went for lunch in the mall (Japanese Restaurant), friend took off later on while me and her proceed to Midvalley shopping mall. It's a bit sad that we could not go for skating like what it's been planned but I do enjoyed our walk at Midvalley. We cruise up and down the mall looking for cosmetics store because she wanted to look for a yellow pigment lipstick. Sadly, mission failed, but we met one of our Facebook friend who happens to work at BENEFITS cosmetic store and suggested to try using eyeshadow. So, our next mission is to look for yellow eyeshadow. Once again, we cruise through all the cosmetics store and found nothing like what we wanted. Sigh... Oh well, time do ticks fast when we were both holding hands in the mall. OMG, that such delicate hands, I really miss it (>,<). My heart was beating so fast when I'm holding her hand and my hands were....umm.... soaking warm? I don't know, maybe no, but it's really warm....according to her ( oh noooooo ). I haven't had that kind of feeling for aaaaaaaaaaaaaages if you must ask, seriously. AM I FALLING SO HARD THIS TIME? I really don't know. Last but not least, as we exited the mall, outside were heavy pouring with the angry winds blowing on one direction. Thank god, as we head further the angry rain starts to dissipate. Reaching to the designated place, the rains all stop (YAY). Dropped her at Taman Maluri if I'm not mistaken ( find it hard to remember those Taman's name >,< zz)  We had the unspoken.... or... no, maybe just me I don't know .. the 3 second of silent while we gave each other a hug before she leaves, that 3 second was like.... I AM SOOOO FXXXKING SAD NOW CAUSE WE HAVE TO GET ON WITH OUR OWN DESTINATION.  I really wish to hug you more than that 3 second, sorry for being greedy but yea, I want to hug you so much that I don't I dont wanna let you go...

Until then....

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Have you ever wonder why men stray . . . ?

With the slogan, "Life is to short, Have an affair".
Many people taken this quote as an excise to have affair just like how everyone hashtag-ing Y.O.L.O.

The age of technology may make it easier to cheat - as well as online sites, there's now sex-ting, and phone and Skype sex. But what still matters most of all to women is why? So what really makes a boyfriend/ husband cheat?  I am no expert, but I can surely stand in the men's point of view and tell you how they felt.

Relationship experts don't believe in stereotyping unfaithful men, they admit they do see some patterns. Say like, the men most likely to cheat are those without clear emotional boundaries. Or they are men who can separate sex from bonding. Some men can have problems with closeness and intimacy. Others cope with life's stresses with avoidance. They're also prone to addictions.

Well, you see, men are generally less likely to share their feelings than women, but in Asia this is especially true. Men are expected to be strong, a silent providers in the relationship/family. Trouble is that when man feel obligated to appear "strong and silent" at all times, it's very isolating. Unlike women, man generally can't let off steam by confiding in his friends. The only person they can really confide in is their loved one.Some men may be afraid to let their girlfriends/wives see their vulnerabilities - such as no longer feeling attractive, or their worries about work. They may be feeling the need for reassurance and positive affirmations at times. If they are too afraid to approach their girlfriend/wife for affirmation, it can affect the closeness of the relationship. If a man cheats, it is often a sign that the couple is no longer connected in a very deep way.

So, lets just say it straight out, no one gets in relationship or marriage to cheat. NO one force him to cheat. He's an adult and he can make smart or stupid choices. but that said, loneliness and fear can sometimes make people do crazy things. A man who feels isolated may instinctively search for alternative source of emotional support. It's an emotional decision, not a logical one. This is why a friendship can sometimes be the springboard for affairs. The affairs may start out innocently, with a man starting by just wanting a listening ear and the feeling of cared for. A man also is more vulnerable at certain time of his life: When he's under pressure at work, or when he's going through a midlife crisis. At stressful times like these, knowing that someone finds them attractive can be tempting boost. A flirtation with a colleague can give them something to look forward to in their daily life. And some men may even feel needed, powerful and helpful when the women they are involved with is also dependent on them - as an employee or colleague would be. Even if he doesn''t sleep with the other women, it can still do some damage to the closeness of your relationship or marriage. If he's drifting apart from you, and he's sharing personal information with the other party while feeling attracted to her, then he's already getting very emotionally involved with her.

Such emotional infidelity can become a trap of their own making. A man can get addicted to this relationship that's based on fantasy, not reality. Eventually, he loses his sense of judgement and becomes infatuated, or even obsessed. Men caught in emotional infidelity will start fantasizing about the women, and they'll confide matters to her that they won even necessarily tell their own girlfriend or wife. When it comes to this point, what should the women do? First up, settled couples fight, quarrel and disagree. But that's not the problem. What's most important is how you handle your fights and day-to-day disagreements. Try gaining his trust by listening with an open mind and acknowledge his emotions if he approaches you. Women don''t understand how much courage and effort it takes for a man to speak up whether he's the macho type or not. When a man does speak up and is rejected, not taken seriously or attacked, his ego suffers another blow. This can starts to fill him with relationship-poisoning anger and resentment. Thus, he may decide it's not worth approaching you anymore, and meaningful communication may come to an end - and that's when the relationship starts to crumble.

Avoid judgemental comments or blaming him for his problems or feelings, You want to across as supportive and caring partner, so don't jump down his throat. His problem may be more about him feeling neglected and unloved; so even if you are upset by what he says, allow him to finish what he has to say and shows you love and respect him enough to listen.

It all comes back to meeting your girlfriends or wife's most intimate needs - loving him the way he wants to be loved, not how you want to love him. Correct me if I'm wrong. But if you are suffering from this now, you might want to take a step back and try to re-establish your communication before things get drift away.


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Fashion Overdose perhaps...

THE CITIZENS OF THIS WORLD  are divided into two categories - the stylish set and the normal people. Well, to the fashion set, at least. Don't get me wrong. I'm not talking about folks who take pride in the way they look. Rather, this class of fashion "elites" are those who think they are above everyone else and judge people purely by which season's Ferragamo lace-ups they have on their feet.

The one issue I have with these fashion snobs is the constant need to be styled all the time. Most days, they look like they belong with the residents of Capitol City in the Hunger Games  fully decked in Capitol Couture to the point that it invites ridicule and scorn. Perhaps working in the fashion industry affords their inner Princess Beatrice more opportunities to air their toilet seats. 

 

Seemingly, these "fashionista" live in a dimension parallel to ours ; we walk the same earth but we see very different things. To us, we look perfectly acceptable, but to them, we are style plebeians.

Someone once quoted the "this stuff" speech by Miranda Priestly from Seminal fashion snob fashion film The Devil Wears Prada. If you haven't got the clue as to what I'm referring to, look it up on the YouTube. Its frequently used to validate the industry and elevate it on a pedestal higher than Charlotte Olympia heels. In fact, you could replace certain words in the speech with mundane words like "pencils" and "China" and that speech would be applicable to every other industry. Do people seriously think the revolves around the clothes we wear?

A colleague and I were discussing how we people working in an industry that thrives for fashion, also see the world differently from others. We may not judge them on the brands they wear but we nitpick the minute details like the cut of their jeans, the 10-year-old school T-shirts that have been worn down to the muslin and their Crocs. There is no excuse for Crocs. Ever. I digress, but you get my drift. Does prolonged exposure to fashion turn one into snob?

Sure, people should dress appropriately and take pride in the way they look  a good sense of style goes a long way. I also believe someone who makes the effort to dress up deserves more attention than the dude who throws on cargo shorts and slippers. But let's not forget that too much of something is rarely a good thing.

 

The best way to judge someone's style is through the eyes of an average man standing on the outer rims of the fashion universe.If he says you look good in your attire, you probably look decent enough for the real world. But if he is asking what the fuck you are wearing, it's time for a review. Check out wtfywt.tumblr.com and you will know what I'm talking about.

What is V-Day to Men?

Oh, St.Valentine, if you knew your love letter and romantic acts would one day be celebrated by cheesy bouquets and mass-produced gifts, would you  still have been the medieval version of Casanova? I like to think that the martyr of romance - had he seen our current practice of proclaiming love by presenting plants to each others(I mean, seriously) - would you have turned up his nose and flounced away in his vintage bloomers and robe. Forget V-Day, it's more of D-Day to us men. Here's the reason why : 

YOU MEASURE OUR LOVE

Judging us based on presents and dinner plans(specially the materialistic one) for one day is just plain unfair. To us, Valentine's Day is a label popped on a day that really isn't out of the ordinary otherwise. We don't need the ruffles and Champagne to show how much we love you - we already know how beautiful those sparkling eyes that we are staring at 24/7 and how special you are in our circle of life(although there some guys who is just aiming for something down south). These frills and bows are here because you need to remember how much we care, and it sucks. It feels like you've stuck a price tag on our feelings.

 

MORE DRAMA THAN THE  VMAs

Sadly, nothing brings out the insecurities in people more than a celebration of love. While you ladies compare the sizes of your bouquets and diamonds(admit it), we are doing the same - with our paychecks. Why else would girls tore wilting roses or giant stuffed toys down the Orchard Road, hand in hand with a smug boyfriend? It's supposed to be a day of love, but it has become nothing but a catty display of your partner's success and wealth.

SINGLES HAVE MORE FUN

I've only spent one Valentine's Days in my whole life(for now) as a attached man and, boy, being single on this day rocks. There's no pressure to buy the right presents, no squinting to each other over a candlelit dinner(next to 20 other couples), and no fights at all. Instead, you can meet up with your single friends, eat your heart out at an entirely unromantic place with amazing food, and party all night long after that. Who's with me?

*speaking from experience*

What makes you think You'eve found The One

The BIG Question

Call me a hopeless romantic, but I've always believed that somewhere out there there is someone perfect for each of us. Do you know that the Greek playwright Aristophanes once explained the idea of soulmates with a story which I've held very close to my heart. Man originally had four arms, four legs and a single made with two faces. The Greek gods were threatened by humans great strength, so Zeus split them in half. Each human would then long forever for his or her other half until the day they were united. While his interpretation might be a tad idealistic, I think the search for your dream match makes life more meaningful, and when you finally find her you'll cherish her even more. Here are the 3C for my dream girl : Comfort, Chemistry and a lot of Cuddling. With your soulmate, you should be completely at ease. Neither would have their walls up, be on their guard or put on false front. There would be no need to - this person will love you and want you for who you are, no strings attached. If she trusts me enough to confide in me, share her opinions, feelings and thoughts openly, it'll mean a lot to me. That level of confidence is not easily achieved. Chemistry isn't something you can fake or pretend to feel. It's almost magical, the way you instantly click with someone and see their point of view. Even if you disagree, you totally get where they're coming from and accept it. There are couples who are so in sync, they're able to finish each others sentences. Personally I like attentions and cuddling. Physical attention is a human need, and when we receive it from the right person, we naturally feel happy. To feel that electrifying zing of attraction, affection and contentment all at the same time is amazing. It sounds corny when put into words, but it's absolutely true. A hug, kiss, snuggle expresses everything you feel for someone without having to say a single word.

There you have it. If you've felt this, congratulations, because you've have found The One. (=^_^=)