What is V-Day to Men?

Oh, St.Valentine, if you knew your love letter and romantic acts would one day be celebrated by cheesy bouquets and mass-produced gifts, would you  still have been the medieval version of Casanova? I like to think that the martyr of romance - had he seen our current practice of proclaiming love by presenting plants to each others(I mean, seriously) - would you have turned up his nose and flounced away in his vintage bloomers and robe. Forget V-Day, it's more of D-Day to us men. Here's the reason why : 

YOU MEASURE OUR LOVE

Judging us based on presents and dinner plans(specially the materialistic one) for one day is just plain unfair. To us, Valentine's Day is a label popped on a day that really isn't out of the ordinary otherwise. We don't need the ruffles and Champagne to show how much we love you - we already know how beautiful those sparkling eyes that we are staring at 24/7 and how special you are in our circle of life(although there some guys who is just aiming for something down south). These frills and bows are here because you need to remember how much we care, and it sucks. It feels like you've stuck a price tag on our feelings.

 

MORE DRAMA THAN THE  VMAs

Sadly, nothing brings out the insecurities in people more than a celebration of love. While you ladies compare the sizes of your bouquets and diamonds(admit it), we are doing the same - with our paychecks. Why else would girls tore wilting roses or giant stuffed toys down the Orchard Road, hand in hand with a smug boyfriend? It's supposed to be a day of love, but it has become nothing but a catty display of your partner's success and wealth.

SINGLES HAVE MORE FUN

I've only spent one Valentine's Days in my whole life(for now) as a attached man and, boy, being single on this day rocks. There's no pressure to buy the right presents, no squinting to each other over a candlelit dinner(next to 20 other couples), and no fights at all. Instead, you can meet up with your single friends, eat your heart out at an entirely unromantic place with amazing food, and party all night long after that. Who's with me?

*speaking from experience*

What makes you think You'eve found The One

The BIG Question

Call me a hopeless romantic, but I've always believed that somewhere out there there is someone perfect for each of us. Do you know that the Greek playwright Aristophanes once explained the idea of soulmates with a story which I've held very close to my heart. Man originally had four arms, four legs and a single made with two faces. The Greek gods were threatened by humans great strength, so Zeus split them in half. Each human would then long forever for his or her other half until the day they were united. While his interpretation might be a tad idealistic, I think the search for your dream match makes life more meaningful, and when you finally find her you'll cherish her even more. Here are the 3C for my dream girl : Comfort, Chemistry and a lot of Cuddling. With your soulmate, you should be completely at ease. Neither would have their walls up, be on their guard or put on false front. There would be no need to - this person will love you and want you for who you are, no strings attached. If she trusts me enough to confide in me, share her opinions, feelings and thoughts openly, it'll mean a lot to me. That level of confidence is not easily achieved. Chemistry isn't something you can fake or pretend to feel. It's almost magical, the way you instantly click with someone and see their point of view. Even if you disagree, you totally get where they're coming from and accept it. There are couples who are so in sync, they're able to finish each others sentences. Personally I like attentions and cuddling. Physical attention is a human need, and when we receive it from the right person, we naturally feel happy. To feel that electrifying zing of attraction, affection and contentment all at the same time is amazing. It sounds corny when put into words, but it's absolutely true. A hug, kiss, snuggle expresses everything you feel for someone without having to say a single word.

There you have it. If you've felt this, congratulations, because you've have found The One. (=^_^=)

Double Standards ??? Seriously...

So, he's not allowed to see his girl buddy but you're always hanging out with your guy friend. What's up girl?

Everybody knows the basic rules of a relationship - always be open and honest, don't lie or cheat, and always give and take. Sometimes, there are further expectations, and small requests may be made by either of you to strengthen the relationship. However, if you expect or demand your partner to behave in a way that you don't demonstrate yourself, you're guilty of having double standards.

You have lots of guy friends but he can't have girl friends?
This is a slight paranoia that someone might come and snatch your partner from under your nose is always there, regardless of how happy and secure the two of you are. But when you expect your boyfriend to sever all the ties with his girl friends while you wander around town with your boys, it shows a huge mistrust in not only the people he's hanging around with, but also with your partner. Before you tell your guy how you feel, take a moment to wonder why you can't stand your boyfriend being around other girls - is it because they're too touchy-feel with him? Or is it due to his flirtatious nature? Instead of making your boyfriend avoid contact with girls, why not talk to him about what unsettles you instead, and come to a compromise together.

He's forgotten your little misdemeanors but you remember all of his.
You've had your fair share of messing up but when he forgets to do something as trivial as washing the dishes, you bring up everything that has nothing to do with what just happened, like that last time he forgot your birthday or was caught looking at another girl. When the table flips and he brings up your mishaps, you throw a fit. Emotional blackmail and guilt trips are not cool ( TOTALLY NOT COOL). If you find yourself bringing up every little thing just so you can have the final say in the argument, you're doing it wrong. When your say you're about to forgive and forget, you need to do just that. Be adults about it and set some ground rules : Keep the arguments to the point and make sure you don't stray too far away from it - bringing up past fights will only cloud the issue at hand. So own up to your mistakes, don't get too defensive, accept that we all mess up sometimes and understand that he's not going to love you any less. Keep calm and carry on

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