With the slogan, "Life is to short, Have an affair".
Many people taken this quote as an excise to have affair just like how everyone hashtag-ing Y.O.L.O.
The age of technology may make it easier to cheat - as well as online sites, there's now sex-ting, and phone and Skype sex. But what still matters most of all to women is why? So what really makes a boyfriend/ husband cheat? I am no expert, but I can surely stand in the men's point of view and tell you how they felt.
Relationship experts don't believe in stereotyping unfaithful men, they admit they do see some patterns. Say like, the men most likely to cheat are those without clear emotional boundaries. Or they are men who can separate sex from bonding. Some men can have problems with closeness and intimacy. Others cope with life's stresses with avoidance. They're also prone to addictions.
Well, you see, men are generally less likely to share their feelings than women, but in Asia this is especially true. Men are expected to be strong, a silent providers in the relationship/family. Trouble is that when man feel obligated to appear "strong and silent" at all times, it's very isolating. Unlike women, man generally can't let off steam by confiding in his friends. The only person they can really confide in is their loved one.Some men may be afraid to let their girlfriends/wives see their vulnerabilities - such as no longer feeling attractive, or their worries about work. They may be feeling the need for reassurance and positive affirmations at times. If they are too afraid to approach their girlfriend/wife for affirmation, it can affect the closeness of the relationship. If a man cheats, it is often a sign that the couple is no longer connected in a very deep way.
So, lets just say it straight out, no one gets in relationship or marriage to cheat. NO one force him to cheat. He's an adult and he can make smart or stupid choices. but that said, loneliness and fear can sometimes make people do crazy things. A man who feels isolated may instinctively search for alternative source of emotional support. It's an emotional decision, not a logical one. This is why a friendship can sometimes be the springboard for affairs. The affairs may start out innocently, with a man starting by just wanting a listening ear and the feeling of cared for. A man also is more vulnerable at certain time of his life: When he's under pressure at work, or when he's going through a midlife crisis. At stressful times like these, knowing that someone finds them attractive can be tempting boost. A flirtation with a colleague can give them something to look forward to in their daily life. And some men may even feel needed, powerful and helpful when the women they are involved with is also dependent on them - as an employee or colleague would be. Even if he doesn''t sleep with the other women, it can still do some damage to the closeness of your relationship or marriage. If he's drifting apart from you, and he's sharing personal information with the other party while feeling attracted to her, then he's already getting very emotionally involved with her.
Such emotional infidelity can become a trap of their own making. A man can get addicted to this relationship that's based on fantasy, not reality. Eventually, he loses his sense of judgement and becomes infatuated, or even obsessed. Men caught in emotional infidelity will start fantasizing about the women, and they'll confide matters to her that they won even necessarily tell their own girlfriend or wife. When it comes to this point, what should the women do? First up, settled couples fight, quarrel and disagree. But that's not the problem. What's most important is how you handle your fights and day-to-day disagreements. Try gaining his trust by listening with an open mind and acknowledge his emotions if he approaches you. Women don''t understand how much courage and effort it takes for a man to speak up whether he's the macho type or not. When a man does speak up and is rejected, not taken seriously or attacked, his ego suffers another blow. This can starts to fill him with relationship-poisoning anger and resentment. Thus, he may decide it's not worth approaching you anymore, and meaningful communication may come to an end - and that's when the relationship starts to crumble.
Avoid judgemental comments or blaming him for his problems or feelings, You want to across as supportive and caring partner, so don't jump down his throat. His problem may be more about him feeling neglected and unloved; so even if you are upset by what he says, allow him to finish what he has to say and shows you love and respect him enough to listen.
It all comes back to meeting your girlfriends or wife's most intimate needs - loving him the way he wants to be loved, not how you want to love him. Correct me if I'm wrong. But if you are suffering from this now, you might want to take a step back and try to re-establish your communication before things get drift away.
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