Cool Shades (but we are indoors)

I get it. You want attention. But just because Miyavi wears shades indoors at award shows and PSY has taught everyone from Britney to UN secretary general Ban Ki-Moon how to 'Gangnam style' it up while wearing designer sunglasses, doesn't make it all right for you to wear sun cheaters indoors or at night. Definitely not indoors and at night. Not even remotely at night.

Musicians have this unspoken creative license to wear whatever they want, whenever they want. They are artistes after all, and by definition, a few raisins short of a fruit loaf. So unless you have the boisterous swag of Freddie Mercury (self test : can you pull off a chequered unitard and look like a legend?) or are in fact a direct progeny of Elvis, don't even think about wearing mirrored aviators indoors. 

Sunglasses, lest we forget were created to protect our eyes from harmful ultraviolet radiation and interestingly, were also prescribed to people with syphilis in the early 20th century because of their sensitivity to light. In both cases, protection from sun, during the day (just in case you missed my point). However, after years of being worn by musicians and celebrities alike to hide their identity or conceal blood-shot eyes, sunglasses have become COOL.

This is different from looking 'hot'. Cool is aloof, detached, closely associated with a breezy attitude and accompanied with loads of SWAGGER. Hot, on the other hand, is sexually-charged, visual and sets pulses racing: but like fireworks, it's explosiveness is usually fleeting. Shades in themselves can look hot, but are increasingly worn to make the wearer appear cool in a devil-may-care sort of way. (laugh)

And by the way, not all sunglasses are created equal, in case you haven't noticed. Protective qualities aside, the type of shades you should wear says alot about your personal style. But even the best pair worn without attitude would be worse than wearing none at all.

Only a handful of men in the world can get away with wearing shades after dark, and chances are, you're not one of them. Worst justification I've heard from a man donning shades at night? 'My future's so bright I have to wear shades'. You've got to be kidding me man. (laugh out loud)

Gotta admit it, I look good with sun cheater despite indoor or outdoor~ Hahaha..

Super Passionate Session? Anyone?

That's right homie. You are curious. You clicked in here. You are reading. You are anticipating.... And you are still reading?! Oh my god.... you must be dead serious! (laughs)

Alright, let's cut to the chase... this is my first time to talk about some HAWT stuff for boys and girl, for men and women, for ladies and gentlemen. It's about S*X... not SIX ok! Alright, you feel me, you got it, so keep reading.

Sexy passionate sex! It's what we all hope for(atleast) : for that richer, connected rhythm that makes you smile every time you think about it - but stops. . . . . . . .  and i mean FULL STOPS. Your bed session just die off after couple of years.(maybe) So, how does this happened? Why you lose the loving feeling?

There are few reason that you man not be having as much passionate session as you deserve. The first? The rise of mainstream porn. It's becoming the model of what people think sex is supposed to be.Well of course, if porn depicted loving couples having egalitarian sex in which both parties are equally concerned with pleasing the other. But, well, it's doesn't.The majority of porn depicts women as being more concerned with pleasing the men than pleasing themselves.(for goodness sake) Women become convinced that they should emulate porn stars(well,not everyone i suppose), so they try to do all these wild, man-pleasing moves rather than paying attention to their own satisfaction and taking time to find out what they like. Indeed that a little pretzel play now and then can be fun, but most women don't really get off on the acrobatics. Having wild monkey sex essentially turns the act into theater, which hinders your chance to truly connect.

Porn isn't the only reason couples these days aren't super passionate on bed - self satisfaction can also be a factor. Couples get so comfortable that they take their sex life for granted and stop putting in the effort to romance each other. They ended up having going-through-the-motion sex, and finally, some women  are simply afraid to ask their partner for more romantic intimacy.

Wild sex is great, but feeling connected on a deep emotional level is even better. It feels more real, and when I care about a girl, I want to treat her affectionately to show her that I'm serious about her. So, that guys-only-want-porny-sex falsehood? Officially busted.

Another reason you should add some more emotional sex to your bedroom rotation, its the a..... biological urge i call it. People crave for attention and passion, and that's when you pretend you don't, you are actually shutting down a large part of yourself. Devaluing romantic session allow you to justify being in a relationship with someone who's not loving towards you and that's never right to begin with.

So, how do you do it without feeling lame? Cracked my history and presented here for you homie.

Having romantic session doesn't entails scattering rose petals all over your sheets before you do it,(although, but hey, if that works for you, go all out). Rather, truly sensual sexy-time happens mutually, as results of feeling connected to each other - focus on your bond outside the bedroom first. A little simple things can do a wonder : have breakfast together, call or text each other on your lunch time just to say hi, and send a message(optional) "I can't wait to see you tonight" in the afternoon. Building up your connection throughout the days makes you feel closer when you are in the bed later. Reminding each other of how good you are together will make both of you crave for more closeness. Then once you're in the bedroom, focus on each other....(I guess i don't have to be specific with the later details) You may start with some slow tease by removing each others clothes, not just your own. I feel that it's a HWAT way to get in the moment - feeling of the fabric slides down your skin heightens your sense of anticipation. Kiss like you mean it, again, this might sound duh, but the truth is, smooching is often the first thing to go when couples get into sexual rut.(Laughs)

Inspired yet?

Friendship, Limited. . . ?

Facebook limited profile feature is handy when want to hide embarrassing personal information from specific group, but can you take it too far?

A friend of mine, (ok, let’s just call it M) has five limited profiles on Facebook. Look…it’s Five! If you’re unfamiliar with the concept of Facebook’s limited profiles, you either live your life an open book (how very Gen-Y of you) or have successfully resisted the temptation of the ubiquitous social network – for now…

To put it plainly, limited profiles on Facebook allow you to control what you want to share with your network of “friends. For example, many of us have no desire to reveal photos of our drunken Friday nights to our clients or bosses, so we set up a limited profile that only gives them access to photo album that show us at work events or pure family holidays.

It follows the theory of the bear pooping in the woods – if they don’t see it, it doesn’t exist.

But when I found out about M’s limited profiles, my jaw unhinged, because it revealed a whole new level off meticulousness when it comes to curating one’s online images. Like the proverbial onion, she has distinctly differentiated the many layers of herself, which she presents to various groups of people in her life: colleagues, family, friends and acquaintances. I think she even has one for ex-boyfriends… (Gosh…think about it)

“How do you choose what to share with one group as opposed to another?” I asked her. She quickly rattled off a string complicated criteria, but essentially it’s a reflection of how she separates her social layer in real life. For example, she doesn’t like her colleague prying into her private affairs, so she doesn’t give them access to photo albums that feature past or present boyfriends.

I on the other hand, don’t have any limited profiles. My policy is simple – if I want to share something on Facebook, I share it with everyone. Personally, it makes life a whole lot easier. Then again, I am hardly the most active user of Facebook, because its purpose for me has dramatically changed. When once it contained to close friend, over the years of my “friends” list has grown to include primary schoolmates that we don’t’ speak much and work acquaintances who don’t really need to know that my day off comprise of sitting in front my computer all day or  hitting the outdoor  for some fresh air. Instead, I share those things on private chats or on WhatsApp with my other core friend.

But I have to admit that I have a certain respect for M’s fastidiousness, because to curate your online image so carefully takes a heck of a lot of dedication. It’s not dishonest or calculating, just the barefaced reality that we all have different facets that we reveal selectively. It’s hardly surprising that the practice has extended to our online lives where we spend time interacting with many of our loved one and not-quite-so-loved ones. For the latter, a limited profile is a lot less brutal than getting “unfriended”, but that’s another story.