Monday, 1 July 2013

Friendship, Limited. . . ?




Facebook limited profile feature is handy when want to hide embarrassing personal information from specific group, but can you take it too far?


A friend of mine, (ok, let’s just call it M) has five limited profiles on Facebook. Look…it’s Five! If you’re unfamiliar with the concept of Facebook’s limited profiles, you either live your life an open book (how very Gen-Y of you) or have successfully resisted the temptation of the ubiquitous social network – for now…

To put it plainly, limited profiles on Facebook allow you to control what you want to share with your network of “friends. For example, many of us have no desire to reveal photos of our drunken Friday nights to our clients or bosses, so we set up a limited profile that only gives them access to photo album that show us at work events or pure family holidays.


It follows the theory of the bear pooping in the woods – if they don’t see it, it doesn’t exist.


But when I found out about M’s limited profiles, my jaw unhinged, because it revealed a whole new level off meticulousness when it comes to curating one’s online images. Like the proverbial onion, she has distinctly differentiated the many layers of herself, which she presents to various groups of people in her life: colleagues, family, friends and acquaintances. I think she even has one for ex-boyfriends… (Gosh…think about it)


How do you choose what to share with one group as opposed to another?” I asked her. She quickly rattled off a string complicated criteria, but essentially it’s a reflection of how she separates her social layer in real life. For example, she doesn’t like her colleague prying into her private affairs, so she doesn’t give them access to photo albums that feature past or present boyfriends.


I on the other hand, don’t have any limited profiles. My policy is simple – if I want to share something on Facebook, I share it with everyone. Personally, it makes life a whole lot easier. Then again, I am hardly the most active user of Facebook, because its purpose for me has dramatically changed. When once it contained to close friend, over the years of my “friends” list has grown to include primary schoolmates that we don’t’ speak much and work acquaintances who don’t really need to know that my day off comprise of sitting in front my computer all day or  hitting the outdoor  for some fresh air. Instead, I share those things on private chats or on WhatsApp with my other core friend.


But I have to admit that I have a certain respect for M’s fastidiousness, because to curate your online image so carefully takes a heck of a lot of dedication. It’s not dishonest or calculating, just the barefaced reality that we all have different facets that we reveal selectively. It’s hardly surprising that the practice has extended to our online lives where we spend time interacting with many of our loved one and not-quite-so-loved ones. For the latter, a limited profile is a lot less brutal than getting unfriended, but that’s another story.

 

 

 

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